20 November 2012

Dealing With Unresolved Issues



This post has nothing to do with an outfit, so I don’t even have any fashion visuals for you [Sorry (",)]. I would have video blogged this if I didn't have technical difficulties but it is well. I hope that you fully catch and understand what is written and that it helps you as much as it is helping me.

Even though this post isn’t much to do with an outfit I have put together, it does have everything to do with style and our hearts. Your style is a presentation of you! 1 Samuel 16:7 tell us that …for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.’

No human can see your heart, only God can, but we can see what’s in your heart by what you present, through your speech, dressing, attitude, character and craft. Your presentation of yourself through these different areas shows everyone else:

- Who you are/ believe you are 
- What you believe
- How little or much you believe it 
- What standards you uphold
- How you esteem yourself
- What you think you are worth

All these things that come from within- from our hearts are then publicly displayed in how we present ourselves. So what's inside really does matter. The Heart Matters! 

Having said that, if there are ANY unresolved issues in your heart, it will affect the type of person you are today…how little or much your love others, how you express yourself and even sometimes what you do and don’t do (so living with fear). There are so many other examples of how this affects us, but these will do for now.

Unresolved issues affect the choices that you make and the desires you have.

Proverbs 27:19 tells us that ‘ As in water face answereth to face, so the heart of man to man.’ This shows us that the same way in water your face is reflected back to you, the heart reveals who we are and what’s really in side of us. We are then told in Luke 8:17 ’For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither anything hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.’  You can avoid and hide from it for as long as you like, but it doesn't remove the issues. It just keeps hurting you.
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There are many people in my life that have hurt me and caused me pain, and some till this day have NO idea that their comment or attitude really wounded me. Without an apology from them I have chosen to and am still choosing to, as things get brought back to the surface, to forgive them and move on.


I realise that if I feel that way about others to me, that there must be people out there that I have hurt too and wounded where I have no idea. I could and would go and apologise to each individual but not knowing who these people are, I can’t tell them to their face, so I HOPE they forgive me and allow themselves to be set free by Jesus!  

If by Gods perfect way He has allowed you to read this, and I have ever hurt you, in any way shape or form… I am truly SORRY! Forgive me please! I am mindful that sorry is thrown around in this society but that's not to say it has lost its original meaning. An apology still holds weight today as it did when God first ever revealed it to man, if you allow yourself to receive it. 

These past couple of weeks have been very reflective for me...Just thinking of my relationships with different people, at different times in my life so far. You know when you have been super close with someone, to the point you even consider them more than just friend but family. It doesn't even matter if they don't consider you in the same way because your mind is made up.

Then somehow, some way, things happen, sometimes nothing really happens but you drift apart and you’re no longer close like that. You basically have no real relationship at all, just general hi and bye’s.....like you were never close?! That HURTS me!!! I don't like that stuff. :'(.. So I am taking it to Jesus and just mindful that I am not alone in needing to address things or people from the past.

I seriously MISS some people and really know that nothing is worth all the drama and strife! Even when we have sometimes created them for ourselves, it’s still not worth it. Some say, 'people change, you grow up and just get on with it' etc... I still think it's not very nice or healthy to live like that.

‘A sound heart is life to the body, But envy is rottenness to the bones.’- Proverbs 14:30 #HELLO! It's not good to not have a sound heart!

As people wanting to live the life Jesus has given to us and desiring to follow His way He has said to us in Romans 12:18 ‘If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.’ 

Peaceably defined via Vines: to bring to peace, reconcile.

Brushing things under the carpet or putting up with sin to keep peace is NOT God’s way or will. That’s not what His word describes. When there are issues, we are to resolve them, come together, talk, break bread - fellowship and get to the bottom of it. Let God’s word direct the relationship and the conversation and come with the heart, not to be right, but to let God be right, because He is.

We are even given a mandate of what to do if someone offends you, and I have been thinking over this, and really examining myself on do I really apply this, what do I FIRST do when hurt by someone?! I can't be now in Christ and still moving as I did before I knew Him. That would just be silly. So I HAVE to apply this so that I be like Him.   

We live in a generation where ‘ranting’ is acceptable to the mass, so when one is upset, rather than going to God… twitter, Facebook or where ever seems to be the place they choose to pour out and sometimes releasing some REALLY venomous things, that again just highlights what’s in your heart. = Not The Way.  -__-

God’s perfect way for ALL of us, that we need to KNOW and LIVE out:

Matthew 18:15-35 

'Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.  But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.  And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.' 

This has been speaking volumes to me…we are to talk to the person first hand ourselves- ALONE! 
This is not some out dated instructions but is for any disciple who wills to follow Jesus. This is how we should be living life. We need to bring this back and really apply it, because then so many issues won't escalate to the degree they have done so over the years. 

I had been thinking, if only I had lived this out before and not chickened anyway from some stuff, things may have ended better. I am so thankful for REPENTANCE! Being able to acknowledge where I have gone wrong, change my mind on it and RUN the other way! 
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Relationships are so important, so it’s really key we work at them and invest goodness into the ones The Lord permits us to have. There's TOO much bitterness, unforgiveness, malice, anger, strife, hurt and pain in many hearts. It's really unhealthy and wastes time we could have perfecting our relationships and LOVING each other. :)

It's really time we take it all to Jesus and not ignore it, yet let Him deal with our hearts because it’s not worth it. Forgiveness sets us free and allows us to love unconditionally. Forgiveness is a choice. No matter who has wronged you or you to them. Humble yourself...don't wait for the other person and get puffed up with pride. Pride robs us of so much goodness that God wants to lavish on us, including His GRACE, which we NEEEED to live Holy. Without His grace…being holy will seem like a ‘myth’.

Forgive. Reconcile. Love and be at His peace.
Tomorrow is not promised to no one.

We need to take heed to the Word and forgive and if we say we have Jesus, then we need to make movements towards forgiving and resolving issues.  I'm currently journeying on and walking in that direction...no matter how hard it is to revisit some old cases..nothing is too hard for Jesus and through Him I/we can do all things!

I am really seeing how this is even affecting our society here in London, with people not even being willing to crack a smile to strangers, and just being so angry looking and not friendly. It’s not the way to live life, at all.  

It’s an emotional topic, dealing with unresolved issues, but don’t be led by your feelings, because feelings are not final and are subject to change. Be led of God. Really make a decision to live as Christ would want you to.

Live in Love with Him and with a genuine love for others.

Be encouraged and please do share, leave comments, questions or anything, as we all need to be reminded to deal /confront unresolved issues.

With GREAT Love,

.:: N A S H A M B E R ::.



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