19 December 2013

Living Set Apart for God

So my blog first started out because I was led to share my modest outfits. I remember saying to Father/God 'I don't think anyone would be interested in what I do, it's just normal, nothing exciting.' Much to my surprise God has shown me that what I considered 'normal' i.e covering up in my dressing, now in Christ is not the norm for many who are the church. Which is so sad. I am not at all suggesting that I am the standard for modesty-- I am merely a product of His word, transforming my soul and mind, so that my decisions become more godly. 

My heart towards my posts, videos, blogs, is to share what God has taught me on the subject of being His Bride, and adorning ourselves in modest manner. So that you do not make the mistakes I made, and so that you can know His love and standard towards us. I know what I know by His grace and I am still learning. Presenting a submissive heart to God is KEY, however we should also present His temple in a godly manner. We don't do it for guys, not for complements, but simply to worship Him in everything we do. My heart is that we will all be in right standing with Him, not by our own works, but by believing in the work done on the cross, the work of salvation in Jesus. 

Yet we must recognise, though we are NOT saved by works (Ephesians 2:9)...our salvation does need to be worked out (Philippians 2:12). Things in our lives will not change by default. We don't suddenly start to think godly, or respond in love, appreciate time, see money right, dress modestly, stop swearing, stop thinking lustfully....although some have testimonies of immediate changes in Christ we ALL have the responsibility of practicing truth and righteousness. We have to make godly choices and choose to kill the flesh, to walk after the spirit. 

'This is the message we heard from Jesus and now declare to you: God is light, and there is NO darkness in Him at all. So we are lying if we say we have fellowship with God but go on living in spiritual darkness; we are not practicing the truth.' ~ 1 John 1:5, 6 

Such a strong and cutting chapter and this verse is so sobering. God didn't put this verse here so we disqualify ourselves, and start to think 'well I am never going to be perfect'. God is not asking we come to Him or serve Him being perfect--He perfects us. However, we are to desire a life pleasing to Him & not this world we have been saved from. We are given the opportunity to be born of LIGHT, born of GOD. To be the product of His seed, to be like Father, like child! We have the opportunity to reflect a HOLY and PERFECT God, FULL of love, compassion and so Set Apart. I LOVE how Set Apart, God is. Set Apart from sin, from darkness and totally light. It gives me soo much hope in knowing that God is truth and there is no ounce of lies in Him. He is so pure and righteous and by His grace I can reflect His image, because I was made in it. Wow! Holy as He is holy. 

I John 1:5-6 speaks VOLUMES to me, especially as I used to be SO LUKEWARM! One foot in the word and one in the world, I did what I wanted, without consulting God. He was not my LORD yet I said I was a 'Christian'. A lie according to scripture...as I did not practice truth. [I don't even use the word 'Christian', for myself anymore, as that is something another should identify in me, that I am like Christ--just like in scripture. The apostles called themselves disciples of Christ, others called them Christians because they saw that they were bearing the fruit of Christ. ] I was NOT living CHRIST like at all, but in His mercy God reached me and has graced me, so I do not make excuses for ANY sin. Yes, I had a hard child hood, many things happened around me & to me, that affected me. I was exposed to a lot of nonsense from a young age, yet that is still not an excuse. In Christ I am a new creation, old things have passed away. I no longer identify myself as my old man, I now identity with Christ' word over me. 

Sin will destroy anyone of us if we do not submit to Jesus, follow His word and standards. God loves me tooo much for me to flirt with sin and be ineffective--I wasn't created for that. This photo below just reminds me of sin that's not dealt with. Mate! No- no- no! Not on it. 

'I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.' ~ Psalms 119:11. Amen - I live on this!! 

I didn't even mean to write all that, but I hope it blesses someone and shakes you out of the lies of the enemy. You can be upright in Jesus--living everyday desiring more of Him and dying daily. Killing all fleshly desires. Maybe not all in one day, as we grow and develop in time we have on earth, but surely, you will live in reverence to God and not practice sin. Not live a life of, rave this weekend, church conference next weekend. Maxi dress on Sunday, crop tops on Saturday. Being lukewarm is adultery...James admonished us all with this: 

' You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with the world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again: If you want to be a friend of the world, you make yourself an enemy of God. What do you think the Scriptures mean when they say that the spirit God has placed within us is filled with envy? But he gives us even more grace to stand against such evil desires. As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but favors the humble.” So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.' ~ James 4:4-8. 

The solution is in the verses and it's His goodness that exposes our hearts, to lead us to repentance. 

As the Holy Spirit convicts you of areas you need to be changed in, do not be afraid to repent & accept His way of living. The word is here to help cleanse us, so we can be effective & I believe one day to enjoy heaven. Why, you may ask?! 

Well, I realise that in heaven there is no sin, and there isn't anything outside of God's desires, so if I want heaven to be home for me, in eternity, I need to become acquainted with the standards from now. Holiness reigns for He is holy - holy - holy! 

With love 
Nash Amber 

4 December 2013

Modest Dressing Essentials ~ Tips for Skirts

So we are back to the Modest Dressing Essentials - a series dedicated to tips and insight into where to shop for modest items and then how to style them up or modest-fy items you already have that need restyling.

The aim of these videos and blog posts is to help you ladies on a practical level to adapt to the changes going on within your heart towards His standard of holiness including in how you dress.  Modesty does begin in the heart, and only God has the ability to change the heart, yet we must surrender and die daily - denying the flesh of the desires it has, and picking up our cross to follow Jesus. These videos are put together with the heart to empower you to have a wardrobe that reflects your desire to be modest-- because, we can't dress modest with immodest wardrobe choices.

Here are some examples of skirts I have purchased on the high street or online for my modest wardrobe. It can be challenging to find at times but it is possible and I hope this post encourages you!

At a wedding in winter, so I wore it with this textured off the shoulder jumper.
Me and my Mummy
At a birthday dinner.

Most of my shopping is done online and this beautiful emerald green midi skirt, is one of my favourites in my wardrobe!It is SO elegant and can be worn in a number of ways. I purchased this skirt at  Choies - This online store has so many lovely and stylish midi skirts at affordable prices too! I also have it in a black and red, which is so perfect for styling up or down for various occasions.  

Next - Most skirts from next tend to be decent in length and are good quality. Shop during the sales to grab yourself really good bargains, or shop in outlets.

FCUK- Another store that has good quality items, it is not everything from this store, would I wear. I do not go to FCUK in the highstreets, I tend to go to outlet stores which always offers great discounts. 

ASOS- Personal favorite store at present, when it comes to midi skirts. Their skirts are so lovely, affordable, good quality and available in many prints.

Primark - On the odd occasion, Primark may surprise you. With the red pencil skirt, I wear a slip underneath, as the fabric is transparent in the light.

It is possible for the renewed mind to find modest skirts when shopping, because the Word begins to change your desires and makes your eyes gravitate towards more suitable items. It does not happen over night but the Holy Spirit really begins to show you ways to wear things, when you allow Him to be your counselor in all things. When I go into a shop to purchase an item, I automatically check to see if it is decent, in length and fit. Due to practicing-- seeking for modest items, I find them even in highstreet stores. If something is not long enough, I may put a skirt on top or underneath to complete the look. I love skirts! I much prefer them to dresses.

Being a modest lady, means having to be selective with your choices. Most high street stores are not trying to cater for the modest lady. We are not their 'target market', therefore the first thing you find, may not be for you, but exercising patience, will help. :)

There is this awesome website: http://www.modestskirts.co/ which has been put together by another modest fashion blogger that I follow. This site is dedicated to modest skirts. How great is that?! So it has information of different shops selling pretty skirts & where you can purchase them - all at affordable & reasonable prices!  Check it out & save to your tabs.

If you have any questions related to this post or have experienced issues while aiming to dress modest, please email me and I will see what tips I can share. More to come for the Modest Dressing Essentials series. Please Check out the 'Tips for Tops' on YouTube channel also.

With love, 
Nash Amber♡

Modest Styling & more ♡

Heyyy!! I have been meaning to post on here but I have been on the move a lot and busy with styling matters. Hehe. 

I have been working on the modest styling for a while, (which some of you know about -- thank God & thank you to those that have been supportive! I appreciate you! ♡) God has been faithful!! 

Many don't know that I have also started an online boutique to complement the modest styling, & practically provide you with items for your wardrobe too. My desire is to one day be able to supply my sisters with modest & stylish clothing, by His Grace!! God is faithful & I am trusting in His timing and leading. The stretching I'm going through in this season is REAL - I will share at the appointed time. 

This isn't an official opening but an update and to share with you that 'A Set Apart Boutique' is here! thanks to God's constant encouragement!! Within this boutique there are 'Set Apart GEMS' (which I hashtag when me or others wear). #SetApartGEMS is a range of accessories (mainly statement necklaces at present), carefully picked with YOU in mind! To complement your modest looks. :D Modesty is still right & Purity is only possible with Jesus. ♡

'A Set Apart Boutique' will be at a pop up boutique only for THIS Friday, Saturday, & Sunday coming up. Come and be among one of the first people to purchase items before the online site name is released--all in His perfect time. Of course I will be doing personal styling -- giving tips on how you can modestly present yourself on the day too, how can I not?! Hehe. 

Please feel free to bring outfits down or photos of outfits you want to complement with our accessories. There may also be a make up artist in the building, so we can really DO this! 

POP Up Boutique | Location:
Basement ~ Little Gems Boutique. 243 Victoria Park Road, London, E9 7HD

Shout out to @Esfront for hosting this! Follow them too! 

Below are some of the Set Apart GEMS in action. 

Me and my beautiful friend and sister Cali, all the way from NYC. I love her. 

Out at the weekend for my graduation dinner with family.
Wearing another one of the Set Apart GEMS. 

Lovely skirt from Asos! Midi skirts are great, Asos have so many skirts like this one, in different prints and all. Have a look. 

• Midi Skirt - Asos 
• Top - Primark 
• Blazed - HnM 
• Envelop clutch - Primark 
• Footwear - Next 
• Necklace - Set Apart GEMS

Isn't she lovely?! Yes, she is. I'm so thankful for your support AdeLady. 

Me and my beautiful Bessie ALady.

Footwear: New Look 

Necklace - Set Apart GEMS 

• Blouse - Primark 
• Bag - Burberry's 
• Footwear - New Look 
• Necklace - Set Apart GEMS 

Me and my bessie stepped out of our cars and looked at each other and laughed! Same footwear, tanned bag & look of the day. Not planned but yet again we complemented each other in our modest looks. 

At a baby shower yesterday, it was my first one ever and it was absolutely right that Mr and Mrs were both there! The Father of the child invited his friends and brothers and the Mother invited hers. It was an awesome evening! Fun clean games! It was so encouraging to be able to celebrate in such a way, the baby that is to come; With Jesus at the centre. 

I loved it!

I've had a fun weekend! I have a busy week ahead, in prep for this weekend but I will be uploading things on my Instagram and Facebook page. Join me there.

Love to you all and hope that you are growing in the knowledge of Gods love towards YOU. 

With love, 
Nash Amber ♡

Ps: Look forward to meeting and seeing some of you this weekend at the pop up shop. 

'The Lord will perfect that which concerns me; Your mercy, O Lord, endures forever; Do not forsake the works of Your hands.' ~ Psalms 138:8

23 November 2013

Graduation [22.11.13]

I am so thankful to God for getting me through this degree! It is officially official I am a Marketing Graduate. Wow!! 

Many don't know but my degree took me 5 years due to going on placement and failing 3/8 modules in second year. I had to redo all 3 modules and split my final year into 2 years in order to not have an overload of work to do. I didn't graduate with my 08 class but He has worked it ALL out for my good!! It was a VERY VERY stretching time! No one likes failure and so I can testify of Gods amazing mercy and grace in completing this course & not living in disappointment. Be encouraged! God is STILL Good! He really kept and pruned me in that season!!!

Key lesson learnt in this one: 

Just because you fail at something or a module does NOT make YOU a failure. God's word over you is truth regardless of the current reality.  

I got my hair done in Big Box Braids. I wanted the front to be full, but did not expect it to be this full
As my hair is so thick, the box braids came out a lot bigger. It took me a while to get used to it, but I REALLY like it now. Details about the braids are at the end of this post. 

Finished doing the face, wearing the vest top under my shirt. 

First time doing a red lip. 

Used my necklace to complement the overall look. 
I really like shirts and neck accessories. 

Red was my colour for the day. I don't know how but Red 
has become such a favorite for me. I used to REALLY dislike red growing up. 

Outfit breakdown is at the end of this blog post. For this skirt I actually wore another skirt underneath to work as a slip, as it is ever so slightly see through in the light. The extra layer of skirt, gave it a thicker look overall. 

My Family... Older sister and Mum.

Pulled the hair back, as I think it looked better. 

Me and Papa! 

Graduation hat with braids. 
 I am so glad I didn't get a weave in the end,--as I was going to, yet the braids were a lot more 
practical for me and styling etc. 

Graduation hat with braids. 

Surprise visit from brother Seye. The shock on my face when I saw him. So grateful for His support! 

Obviously!! My brother Irich! Enriched with the word! 
LOVE this guy! #forme

The Familia. This isn't even all of them, but I couldn't have everyone there unfortunately. Currently missing my step parents and 6 more siblings. :) 

3rd hair style of the day, after returning the gown and cap. 
I didn't want to return it you know...I liked it on :( 


Failing those modules in second year, did affect me in a negative way at first, because I just could not believe it. I found out while I was in my placement and I was so devastated. I thought about how embarrassing it was to say I failed and really didn't know if there was any point continuing on the degree...especially as I had a strong desire to Style and also God had begun to show me, that I would be doing something with styling in life.

I went through the tears, and through feeling like I let my parents down, got left behind--as everyone in my 08 year graduated and celebrated and I was still doing coursework for final year! Nevertheless, God really helped to get me out of that nasty hole of feeling sorry for myself and feeling like a complete failure. I had support around me and godly counsel that really helped to uplift my spirit. I had to repent- turn away from feeling sorry for myself, and acting as if, 'I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me' was not real and active. I had to stop myself through God's grace and word, from speaking against myself and my life, and to trust Him. Yes I did not do well second year, but I can get back up and try again. The mishap did not have to define me at all! Failing those modules REALLY taught me the different between who I am and what I do/produce, which is something I blogged about here. < Have a read.

God used many different things to encourage me in that season and I am so glad He did and I surrounded to Him. I am so so so so grateful that I am a graduate now. It still has not sunk in yet, but I hope and pray that my life brings ultimate glory to God. I am excited for the doors He will open for me and the ones He will shut that are not for me. 

I love Him and really do believe that, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” (Romans 10:11) I am not disappointed nor ashamed. I am overwhelmed by His goodness towards me and for working things out for my good. It would have been GREAT if, I didn't fail, but God has used what was not a great outcome, for my good. He has taught me much about long suffering-- that segment of fruit, got WORKED  in meeee. I was such a quitter when I started Uni, but since this long season, I have grown to be more determined in the things God has put on my heart to do. 

'And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.'  ~ Romans 8:28 #ImALivingTestimony

With love,
Nash Amber 

Outfit details:
I was on a VERY tight budget of £25 and happened to purchase the main items the day before the Graduation. So unlike me to do things so last minute like so, however on this occasion, that is what happened. I mixed and matched items I already had in my wardrobe with the new items.  

I opted for a 2 piece rather than a dress, because I know I can work with the 2 pieces in the future, with a lot more ease rather than a dress. I managed to put this look together with 3 recent pieces from Primark, for £22. I was SO impressed with the overall look. What I saw in my head, worked well in the end. 

There are seasons were we have to totally be resourceful, I am practicing away at present. Remember: We will not become Proverbs 31 for Him by default. It is good to practice not living beyond our means and I'm trying to live this one out! By His grace I shall pass the tests to come! 

~ Braids - 5 packs of expressions, cut 3 times and feathered.
~ Necklace - From my jewelry collection
~ Blazer - H&M [Purchased a while back]
~ Blouse - Primark [£9]
~ Skirt - Primark [£3]
~ Heels - Primark [£10]